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“So, this is my life. And I want you to know that I am both happy and sad and I'm still trying to figure out how that could be.” ― Stephen Chbosky
We must not expect happiness. It is not something we deserve. When life goes well, it is a sudden gift; it cannot last forever.


Grace under pressure

The phrase "grace under pressure" first gained notoriety when Hemingway used it in a profile piece written by Dorothy Parker. Parker asked Hemingway: "Exactly what do you mean by 'guts'?" Hemingway replied: "I mean, grace under pressure." The profile is titled, "The Artist's Reward" and it appeared in the New Yorker 5 (30 November 1929), pages 28-31. The first published use of the phrase, however, was in an April 20, 1926 letter Hemingway wrote F. Scott Fitzgerald. The letter is reprinted in Ernest Hemingway: Selected Letters 1917-1961 edited by Carlos Baker, pages 199-201.

Grace under pressure is something we should all aspire to. Lots of us never will see that deep composure, calm demeanour and soft assessment of the situation once we are under real pressure. The gift of that ability is rare. But we can all see it when it is there and we can emulate the techniques that allows for a win-win for all concerned. The situations in which our composure is threatened are very numerous and variable. If we have the insight to know that something is in front of us that requires a detachment from the outcome, while still working to get the best outcome, for ourselves and those around us, we are indeed favoured by the Fates. Getting ourselves into a sane and safe place in the midst of trouble, is certainly worth striving for. Being in optimum health helps. Getting the major stressors under control helps. Getting the family issues sorted out helps. Everything that we confront affects something or someone close to us so we need to recognise our own role in the way it plays out. 

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